What May Taught Me

May seriously flew by way too quickly. I feel like I blinked my eyes and the month was gone. I saw this post idea on The Girl Who Loved To Write and thought it is such a great way to reflect on what I’ve learned each month. May was full of lessons for me, a lot of really good one’s though. Here is what the month taught me.

Breaking Down Is Okay. For me breaking down makes me feel weak. I am not one to really show my emotions when I am sad/hurting. I’ve always been the type of person that keeps those emotions to myself (very few people have ever seen me breakdown, cry,etc). I’m the girl who stays tough even when my world is falling apart around me. It’s always been hard for me to open up to anyone when I’m hurting. I guess that’s because I have been raised to be tough and just don’t want others to see that side of me. I was reminded a few months ago that just because I break down everyone once in awhile it doesn’t make me a weak person. I am trying to keep that in mind. Now on to why I’ve had breakdowns….

With my grandfather passing away a little over six months ago, I’ve had a really hard dealing with his death. My grandfather and I were very close, so it’s been extremely hard for me. A lot of times when I visit my grandparents house now I started crying as soon as I pull into their driveway. It’s so hard for me to visit knowing that my grandfather is not there. We have left everything of his as it was before his passing. I know soon my aunt and I will be going through his things to donate or giveaway and that’s such a hard pill for my to swallow. Getting rid of his items doesn’t mean that he won’t be remembered by any means it still sucks though. Certain things remind me of my grandfather or I will just randomly think of him and I break down. I know in time the grieving process will get better (or at least I hope so) but it’s going to take some time.

It’s Okay To Ask Others For Help. I will be straight up honest, I do not ask for help very often. I am the type of person who if something needs to get done I would rather do it myself. That is the slight perfectionist in me. My wedding is a little less than five months away and I’ve pretty much planned everything by myself (not that I do not have anyone to help me). This has slowly started to take a toll on me and I am just ready to be done with planning this wedding. Because I have been stressed out lately I finally decided to ask my fiancé for help when it came to getting things together for our Save The Dates. We have over 200 guests that we are inviting so him helping out was such a huge load off my shoulders. It was so nice to have him collect some of the addresses and get stamps for them.

Giving Someone A Second Chance Isn’t Always A Bad Thing. Previously I was not to fond of one of my co-workers. This was because they were so lazy and never did anything to help out our team.  To me….that doesn’t fly. You either come to work and do what you need to do or not come at all. Seeing that they were lazy it made me dislike them altogether. Our whole team had several conversations with our supervisor but in the corporate world you have to follow a disciplinary action plan. So you can’t just up and fire people….sorry I think that’s stupid but everyone these days will pull a law suit out like it’s nothing. Thankfully this coworker has gotten their ish together and started pulling their own weight. Only took almost a year for that but I’m happy the situation has gotten better. I actually like them as a person now.

To Never Give Up On Your Dreams. Over a year ago I applied to grad school for the counseling program (I have a B.S. In Psychology). Once I applied I realized that I did not want to do counseling and withdrew altogether. Recently I began researching online programs for Forensics and found one that is in Louisiana (I’m from Louisiana). Of course this made me extremely excited because my minor is in Criminal Justice. I am completely addicted to any type of shows that deal with unsolved mysteries, etc. So this is going to be a process for me but I am excited. I am hoping to apply for the 2019 Spring Semester.


This was a long post but I hope everyone enjoyed it. It is a lot more personal than most of my posts.


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  1. Marette wrote:

    It’s tough to ask for help but so necessary. I was kind of in the same boat because I have an 8-week-old and I was trying to do it all. No one can do everything!

    Posted 6.8.18
    • sweetteaandhydrangeas wrote:

      It is very hard to ask for help at times, especially for me. However, doing everything yourself isn’t always easy.

      Posted 6.11.18
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    I just recently learned how important it is to reflect on the past. Studies have shown that reviewing your goals, reviewing what happened in the past week or month actually helps us perform better in the future.

    Everything that you’ve mentioned truly resonates with what i’ve learned being associated with the military. Breaking down is okay, as long as you dont wallow in it. Asking for help is huge! I truly hope that as you finish planning your wedding, things get truly better.

    Posted 6.8.18
    • sweetteaandhydrangeas wrote:

      Cynthia I think it’s a good thing to reflect on what happens. I def agree that it helps me perform better because I learn how to get better or change things accordingly. Breaking down is okay because it’s needed. Not everyone has to be strong all the time. I have learned to ask for help more lately so I do not get burnt out.

      Posted 6.11.18
  3. I hardly ever ask anyone else for help – except my husband I am always asking him to help me around the house. But it is a really humble thing to accept you need help and ask others!

    Posted 6.8.18
    • sweetteaandhydrangeas wrote:

      Ashley I agree that being humble while accepting help is a good thing. I typically just like doing things myself but I’m slowly learning.

      Posted 6.11.18
  4. Felicia wrote:

    I relate with this post so much! I have been dealing with such crazy burnout and May was the turning point to finally push past all of it. I’ve been working on giving people second chances as well because I’m normally the type of person to just cut you off if I think you’re not wholly in a relationship. But the older I get, I know that’s not the best thing to do.

    Posted 6.8.18
    • sweetteaandhydrangeas wrote:

      Felicia I am so glad you were able to relate to this post. One reason why I love blogging is to be able to have other fellow bloggers/readers be able to relate to my posts. Burn out is so real! I completely get you on that. Giving people second chances sometimes is needed because no one is perfect.

      Posted 6.11.18
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    Wonderful. May taught me I need to be more patient with my youngest who is going through a tough transition from home with Mom to preschool.

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    Posted 6.9.18
    • sweetteaandhydrangeas wrote:

      Thank You Lynda! That is an awesome lesson for May! I am glad that my blog title captivated you!

      Posted 6.11.18
  6. Such good lessons, Mistle! I especially like that you touched on 2nd chances. Even though there are times where second chances aren’t a good idea, as a general rule I’m a huge fan of 2nd chances because I know how many “2nd” chances God has given me and I want to extend that to others.
    It’s also so true that there’s nothing wrong with asking for help.

    Posted 6.9.18
    • sweetteaandhydrangeas wrote:

      Thank You Kristin!! Sometimes 2nd chances are needed. I believe that most people deserve one for sure. Now if they mess up after that 2nd chance…that probably means nothing will change. I love that you tied that in with God giving us 2nd chances. I have been slowly asking for more help when it comes to stuff. 🙂

      Posted 6.11.18
  7. Amen amen aaaaand amen – I needed these as a reminder myself!

    Posted 6.11.18
    • sweetteaandhydrangeas wrote:

      Yassss girl!! Glad they were a good reminder.

      Posted 6.11.18
  8. I have so much trouble asking for help so this is a great tip.

    Posted 6.12.18
    • sweetteaandhydrangeas wrote:

      Taylor I completely understand. Asking for help isn’t something I am great at.

      Posted 6.12.18
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